In-Person Coaching, Teaching & Practice
Most communicating and relating struggles aren’t because we don’t care.
They happen because we’re dysregulated, misunderstood, and stuck in habits we were never taught how to change.
This work is about coming back to the body, the heart, and each other—and learning simple, proven skills that unlock the loving partnership, family, community, and livelihood we’re all longing for.
FEEL BETTER
We work with practical regulation tools so you can:
- Feel calmer, steadier, and more grounded
- Reduce anxiety, overwhelm, and reactivity
- Build resilience and emotional safety
When you feel better, everything else gets easier.
COMMUNICATE BETTER
Say what you mean—without blame, criticism, or shutdown.
Most of us were never taught how to make clear, loving requests.
We were taught to hint, complain, criticize, or hold resentment.
Here you’ll learn how to:
- Speak from the heart without attacking
- Turn complaints into actionable requests
- Break big asks into doable, daily steps
- Express emotion without blame
- Be heard without needing to escalate
This is communication that builds trust instead of tension.
RELATE BETTER
Create deep intimacy, safety, and mutual support.
The goal isn’t “winning” or being right.
The goal is bringing out the best in each other.
We focus on:
- Turning toward instead of against
- Avoiding the Gottman “Four Horsemen” and practicing their antidotes
- Soft startups instead of criticism
- Appreciation, acknowledgment, and gratitude
- Emotional safety, repair, and secure attachment
This work supports:
- Romantic partnerships
- Families & co-parenting
- Friendships
- Work & collaboration
THE DREAM
Relating where:
- Everyone feels loved, supported, and cared for
- Vulnerability feels safe
- Appreciation flows in an upward spiral
- Conflict leads to closeness, not distance
- The King and Queen in each of you feel seen and invited forward
These qualities already exist inside everyone.
They don’t need to be forced—just understood and unlocked.
FORMAT
- In-person sessions
- Teaching + real-life examples
- Guided practice (not just theory)
- Gentle, supportive, and honest
No shaming. No fixing.
Just learning how to turn toward each other—again and again.
Interested?
Reach out to connect, ask questions, or schedule a session below.
Price
$123 per hour for up to 4 people.
Clay Schmitz
Coach • Teacher • Steward of Connection
