Natural Born Litterers – Embracing our Waste

"Litterers" doing natural business

Are we earthlings hard wired to discard and dump our waste wherever we please?  Are we born litterers?  If we take an honest look at our cities and in nature can we find any evidence to the contrary?  What if being litterers is in fact a good and necessary practice?  Does the survival of our planet depends on us dumping wherever we want?

As far back as I can remember I saw road signs that said $1000 fine for littering, and along that same road there was plenty of litter.  Birds seem to leave their food scraps and poop wherever they want, same with fish and wild animals.  Babies, kittens, and puppies make a mess with their food and pee and poop anywhere and everywhere.  Judging by all the trash I see on the beach adults are also well practiced litterers…

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Relationship and Marriage – What I Have Learned so Far

Relationship and marriage - ever changing like the oceanWe learn to talk by imitating those around us, this is why we speak the same language as our parents or caregivers. It seems to me that relationship is the same way, we learn to relate by copying those around us.

Learning to speak a foreign language is much easier when it is immersion, it's easier to learn Spanish when living in Mexico. The opposite is also true in that it is much harder to learn healthy relationship skills when surrounded by people who relate poorly.

Speaking our native tongue is easy, even if it's Pig Latin, gibberish, or Klingon, speaking it would be effortless on our part if we grew up immersed in this language. This is why dysfunctional relating comes so easily and is normal to us, since birth many of us have been surrounded by examples of what not to do. Relationships where no one is getting their needs met nor are they unconditionally loved...


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Winning Arguments or Finding Common Ground

Finding Common Ground TogetherAfter a gorgeous fun day at the lake we tried a new local restaurant with two other families.  While eating one father said he couldn't trade food because they are vegetarian.  My wife commented how I don't understand vegetarianism and asked him why they don't eat meat.  

Internally, as I was listening to him, my ego was in full on battle mode and finding inconsistencies, hypocrisy, and all kinds of reasons why his choice is wrong.  If I had voiced my inner lawyer, what are the chances that he would say "oh wow I never thought of that, I've been such a fool and I'm going to start eating meat right now, thanks so much for educating me"?  Probably about as likely as him convincing me to stop eating meat and changing my diet.

Later that evening I remembered the principle of common ground...


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Voting Everyday in a Way that Makes a Difference

voting for loveI checked Facebook the morning after the election and it was post after post of voting woes. Then I looked away from my phone and saw my 19 month old son playing happy as can be without a care in the world. He doesn’t care who won the election, he probably doesn’t know there was an election, nor what an election is…

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What kind of world is my shopping creating?

Shopping until you drop - Hong KongI was shopping for a new propane hose for a camp stove.  A big box hardware store was selling it for $25, and at the small local hardware store it was $40.  

Both stores were about the same distance out of our way, my first thought was what a ripoff, why pay more for the exact same product?  And then I wondered if I really wanted to go to the huge warehouse megastore and feel unknown in some cold uncaring system?  In my feeling torn over where to shop the question that came to me is what is that extra $15 supporting?  Or what does our world look like when our custom(er) is to support local mom and pop shops or huge international chain megastores...


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