Thoughts and Feelings
Growing up I believed there were only a few acceptable feelings: happy, rage, and sadness if someone died. Any other feelings, like say anxiety, was a sign I was broken or a "basket case". Also I could only call in sick to school or work if I was bedridden with flu symptoms or injured and couldn't walk. No one ever explained thoughts to me, and I had no concept that I am not my thoughts. Richard Branson said business opportunities are like buses, there will always be another one coming. Thoughts are like this, so we can let one we don't like go and wait for another thought to come along shortly. Or some folks say thoughts stop altogether, and they just be in peace and bliss. I have experienced this for about half a day and it was magical, one of the most incredible afternoon into evenings I have ever experienced. Colors and textures and all of San Francisco were beautiful and incredible, so enjoyable and peaceful and amazing.
Science or Pseudoscience, what's the difference and why does it matter? Well as I write this a big famous airplane company is having problems with their planes and there are questions about ignoring safety during manufacture. I want to fly in a plane made by people who use science to build a plane that will takeoff fly and land safely and comfortably.
I have found that relationship tools work, they are helpful and improve my relationships. Like a good shovel it just works, you might get tired of digging ditches and want to quit, but the shovel still works regardless. I say this because in one of my relationships I had the tools to understand our dynamic and I was unwilling to put up with the dysfunction. Maybe if I did whatever she asked our relationship would have improved. For me first and foremost I need to be treated with kindness and respect, if this doesn't happen I will leave the relationship. So the tools work, even if the relationship does not. This is not a save the relationship at all costs course. Or said another way I must first be kind and loving to myself, I must have something before I can give it to another.
When I started experimenting with my diet and changing what I eat it seemed scary and risky. I was afraid I might make myself sick or cause some horrific damage to my body. Looking back I was bombarded with endless messaging about food without being aware, and I ate horribly in high school and survived so the fear seems irrational now. In this page I talk about the food I ate throughout my life and the outcome. Also my understanding of food and why I eat what I eat. In addition my experience with food labeling, and the meat and ranching industry.
