Growing up I believed there were only a few acceptable feelings: happy, rage, and sadness if someone died. Any other feelings, like say anxiety, was a sign I was broken or a "basket case". Also I could only call in sick to school or work if I was bedridden with flu symptoms or injured and couldn't walk. No one ever explained thoughts to me, and I had no concept that I am not my thoughts. Richard Branson said business opportunities are like buses, there will always be another one coming. Thoughts are like this, so we can let one we don't like go and wait for another thought to come along shortly. Or some folks say thoughts stop altogether, and they just be in peace and bliss. I have experienced this for about half a day and it was magical, one of the most incredible afternoon into evenings I have ever experienced. Colors and textures and all of San Francisco were beautiful and incredible, so enjoyable and peaceful and amazing.
Here is a preview video from this Thoughts and Feelings page:
https://vimeo.com/1050236760
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I have found that relationship tools work, they are helpful and improve my relationships. Like a good shovel it just works, you might get tired of digging ditches and want to quit, but the shovel still works regardless. I say this because in one of my relationships I had the tools to understand our dynamic and I was unwilling to put up with the dysfunction. For me first and foremost I need to be treated with kindness and respect, if this doesn't happen I will leave the relationship. So the tools work, even if the relationship does not. This is not a save the relationship at all costs course. Or said another way I must first be kind and loving to myself, I must have something before I can give it to another. I found myself in a toxic and dysfunctional relationship where I was willing to do the healing work and my partner was not. So I ended the relationship and now I am with the love of my life, the woman of my dreams, we are doing the healing growth work and our relationship is amazing.
No married couples gave me a manual or tools before I got married, they essentially let us get onboard a ship and head out into the pacific with no sailing instructions and no life preservers nor life boats. I ship-wrecked twice and it was really painful and difficult, so below I share what I learned and hopefully help you relate and take care of the ship you and your partner get into.
Here are is a preview video from this Relating page:
https://vimeo.com/1050236633
And here in this preview video I share an example of a fight my girlfriend and I got into and how we used a repair practice to reconnect:
Obviously we all breathe, usually happens without us thinking about it or even noticing. What happens if we focus on our breath, if we breathe with intention and practice breathing in a way that can alter how we think and feel? When I do this I feel better, calmer, clear mind, my body feels lighter and more at ease.
I think of meditation as a ladder or vehicle that takes me to a wonderful blissful enjoyable place. On this page I talk about what meditation is, how I meditate, and why and when. Meditation is also a foundation tool or place to build from. Communication and relationships are easier.
Here is a preview video from this meditation page:
https://vimeo.com/1050238721
Here is a previous post I wrote about Meditation. There are 6 videos in this tutorial.
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I surf foiled the F-one SK8 850 foil. I was mostly testing to see how it handled wing tip piercing the surface, and how it performed in head high plus long period swell.
In this video I show what happens when the wing tip comes out, and compare the SK8 ride characteristics to the F-one Eagle, Seven Seas, and Phantom foils.
Also there are additional videos of a short wing foil session speed test, and another surf session in small gutless surf.
Thanks to Olivier at Covewater for letting me demo a SK8.
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This video I remove and then install 4 new bladders in a wingfoil inflatable wing.
A mostly straight forward job to replace a bladder, and there are several tricks or tips that can turn failure into success.
In this video series I replace a leading edge, center strut, and two side strut bladders of an 8 meter wing. I also show and explain valves leaking and how to check for leaks.
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Growing up I believed there were only a few acceptable feelings: happy, rage, and sadness if someone died. Any other feelings, like say anxiety, was a sign I was broken or a "basket case". Also I could only call in sick to school or work if I was bedridden with flu symptoms or injured and couldn't walk. No one ever explained thoughts to me, and I had no concept that I am not my thoughts. Richard Branson said business opportunities are like buses, there will always be another one coming. Thoughts are like this, so we can let one we don't like go and wait for another thought to come along shortly. Or some folks say thoughts stop altogether, and they just be in peace and bliss. I have experienced this for about half a day and it was magical, one of the most incredible afternoon into evenings I have ever experienced. Colors and textures and all of San Francisco were beautiful and incredible, so enjoyable and peaceful and amazing.
I have found that relationship tools work, they are helpful and improve my relationships. Like a good shovel it just works, you might get tired of digging ditches and want to quit, but the shovel still works regardless. I say this because in one of my relationships I had the tools to understand our dynamic and I was unwilling to put up with the dysfunction. For me first and foremost I need to be treated with kindness and respect, if this doesn't happen I will leave the relationship. So the tools work, even if the relationship does not. This is not a save the relationship at all costs course. Or said another way I must first be kind and loving to myself, I must have something before I can give it to another. I found myself in a toxic and dysfunctional relationship where I was willing to do the healing work and my partner was not. So I ended the relationship and now I am with the love of my life, the woman of my dreams, we are doing the healing growth work and our relationship is amazing. 
I surf foiled the F-one SK8 850 foil. I was mostly testing to see how it handled wing tip piercing the surface, and how it performed in head high plus long period swell.
This video I remove and then install 4 new bladders in a wingfoil inflatable wing.
