A way we could describe the four habits is we’ve fallen out of love and gone to fear. Or in the moment, we’re scared, we’re feeling attacked, not enough, and all of that. So we go to one of these four things in a dysfunctional attempt to try to feel loved, to get our needs met. And the way I was taught to use these tools is start with self, myself and work outward in ever widening circles. So from self to relationship or family, from family to community, town, tribe, village and then outward to state or nation or land and earth. And by building these circles and widening it out, that’s how we build a healthy society, a healthy planet, a healthy earth:
Science or Pseudoscience, what's the difference and why does it matter? Well as I write this a big famous airplane company is having problems with their planes and there are questions about ignoring safety during manufacture. I want to fly in a plane made by people who use science to build a plane that will takeoff fly and land safely and comfortably.
Wikipedia says, "Science is a rigorous, systematic endeavor that builds and organizes knowledge in the form of testable explanations and predictions about the world."
An unbiased honest scientist could have inspected or looked at the planes in question and made predictions about how they would fly or don't. They have tests for the doors or whatever other part is the problem, and had those tests been done they would have hopefully raised concerns and fixed the issue before flight.
So science is a method. We observe something in... (5 videos on medical science. Info on Atom Science.)
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How we ask or don't ask for what we need can make all the difference, there's that saying we get more bees with honey than vinegar. Even more effective than being sweet is being vulnerable, letting people see our struggle, pain, and suffering invites a natural empathetic response (this works with mature people, in the video I talk about a way to deal with immature or triggered reactions).
In this video I talk about the when, what, where, and how of communicating in a way that gets more of our needs met:
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The 5 levels of agreement are a tool to let us know what we are agreeing to, get more of our requests agreed to, and to align our expectations with reality. What do we do if people aren't keeping the agreements we make? I offer a tool to dig deeper, understand why, and have a better chance of getting what we want.
In this video I talk about agreements, give examples of well known agreements that aren't kept, explain the 5 Levels of Agreement, and aligning our expectations with reality:
If people are not keeping the agreements we make there are usually core wounds from childhood that are coming up. In this next video I give an example from my childhood where my father and I had different levels of agreement on time:
A way we could describe the four habits is we’ve fallen out of love and gone to fear. Or in the moment, we’re scared, we’re feeling attacked, not enough, and all of that. So we go to one of these four things in a dysfunctional attempt to try to feel loved, to get our needs met. And the way I was taught to use these tools is start with self, myself and work outward in ever widening circles. So from self to relationship or family, from family to community, town, tribe, village and then outward to state or nation or land and earth. And by building these circles and widening it out, that’s how we build a healthy society, a healthy planet, a healthy earth:
Science or Pseudoscience, what's the difference and why does it matter? Well as I write this a big famous airplane company is having problems with their planes and there are questions about ignoring safety during manufacture. I want to fly in a plane made by people who use science to build a plane that will takeoff fly and land safely and comfortably.
Stay up at the surface and only option is to fight and beat the other, win-lose which is really lose-lose.
How we ask or don't ask for what we need can make all the difference, there's that saying we get more bees with honey than vinegar. Even more effective than being sweet is being vulnerable, letting people see our struggle, pain, and suffering invites a natural empathetic response (this works with mature people, in the video I talk about a way to deal with immature or triggered reactions).
The 5 levels of agreement are a tool to let us know what we are agreeing to, get more of our requests agreed to, and to align our expectations with reality. What do we do if people aren't keeping the agreements we make? I offer a tool to dig deeper, understand why, and have a better chance of getting what we want.
