Stoked to build this Efoil foil assist board.
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I have rebooted our former KPFA radio/video show, to be a guest on the show please contact me. Below are the first 2 episodes, followed by videos from new exciting channels we have started.
Nick was suffering for over a year and resigned himself to be “doomed”. He made a simple easy change and viola! Pain gone and function restored!
Here is that story (Instagram reel):
Chapter 14 — Getting Back Out There
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For me, the first big question after a breakup is simple:
When?
When is the relationship actually over?
That sounds obvious, but sometimes it isn’t.
Sometimes there’s distance but no clarity.
Sometimes there’s silence but no real ending.
Sometimes the body leaves before the heart does.
So for me, it matters to get very clear...
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Chapter 13: Getting Back Together With My Ex
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After everything I’ve written in this book…
Why would I ever want to get back together with an ex?
That’s a real question...
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Two epic days out at Treasure Island.
A session out here really fills my cup.
More wind on tap this Wednesday and Friday, book a Wing foil lesson here:
Amazing this is here every year and there is always plenty of room for everyone.
Also south swell heading our way this weekend and into next week. Book a SUP Foil lesson here.
So fun to share this playground with friends:
Chapter 12: What’s My Part in the Dysfunction?
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I’ve been sitting with this question for a long time:
What is my part in all of this?
Not as blame.
Not as self-attack.
Just… quiet curiosity.
The kind that shows up after everything falls apart…
when the noise is gone…
and all that’s left is truth.
There’s a rhythm I’ve felt across my relationships.
At the beginning…
everything feels open, alive, magnetic.
There’s ease.
There’s desire.
There’s this sense of we found each other.
And then somewhere along the way…
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Chapter 11: Polarity, Masculine, Feminine, and Attraction
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I’ll be honest: I don’t fully know what the f*** these words mean.
Masculine. Feminine. Polarity.
People throw them around like they’re obvious, like we all agreed on the definitions. But I’m still wrestling with them. I’m still feeling around in the dark. I’ve had moments where I could feel polarity in the room, clear as day, but if you asked me to define it in a neat little sentence, I’d struggle.
So this chapter isn’t me pretending to be the expert.
This is me wandering through the mystery out loud.
I grew up Catholic. Forced church. Catholic school. Male priests. Altar boys, not altar girls. At home, my brother and I did the outside work—mowing, digging post holes, lifting heavy sh*t. My sister worked inside. At the family business, I was doing hard physical labor, hauling sides of beef, making deliveries, doing the rough stuff.
So from early on, I got the message:
Men do this.
Women do that.
Then I went to Fiji and saw a similar thing in a traditional village. Women cooking. Men fishing, building, working outside. Clear roles. Clear structure.
And I started wondering: did that clarity help?
In traditional cultures, marriage wasn’t this fragile little thing where people were constantly threatening to leave. You got married, and that was your life. So I wonder: did the roles help keep the ship steady?
Because in our modern culture, what the f*** is a man even supposed to do?
Make money?
Is that it?
Is masculinity now just “go make a bunch of money, even if the job destroys your soul”?
That’s where I get stuck.
Because I can feel this ancient part of me that would know exactly what to do in a village. Drop me into a tribe, tell me to hunt, build, protect, provide, help the people, and I’m good. I know how to do that.
But modern life?
Go sell poison. Go push propaganda. Go sit in unnatural lights doing sh*t I hate so I can make enough money to be considered attractive?
That doesn’t feel like manhood to me.
That feels like selling my soul...
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Chapter 10: Relationship SkillsPre-order – Buy this book in text and video format here.
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(I also offer more relationship skills in my Mystic Wave Rider video course.)
I think of a relationship as a ship.
A relation-ship.
It’s a vessel my partner and I get into together, with the intention of traveling through life in it. But the ship is given to us empty. The only things inside it are what we put there.
So I can’t expect to take from the relationship what I haven’t put into it.
In my first marriage, we got into that ship with no manual. No sailing instructions. No maintenance guide. No tools. No skills. No lighthouse. No foghorn. Nothing.
Just two young people sent out into the ocean with fifty-foot seas and told, “Good luck.”
Of course we crashed.
How could we not?
That’s why relationship skills matter.
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Chapter 9: Communication Skills
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(I also offer more communication skills in my Mystic Wave Rider video course.)
For me, there are two main reasons to learn and practice communication skills.
The first is simple:
How can my partner give me what I want or need if I can’t communicate it in a way they can understand?
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Chapter 8: What Is Abuse?
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If someone does something that would normally be called abusive, but I don’t experience it as abuse—if it doesn’t land that way in my body, if it doesn’t take something from me, if it has no harmful effect—then that matters.
So when I try to define abuse, I start with impact.
People behave badly all the time. Sometimes it’s clearly abuse. Sometimes everyone agrees. Sometimes even the person doing it would admit it.
But for me, the first and most reliable indicator is...
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